5 Minute Dates

Did you know going on a weekly date night does more to divorce-proof your marriage than you could have ever believed?

Seriously, it does. But here's the problem, who has the time?

And I know the expert say, "Make time. It's the most important time you'll ever make...Blah...Blee...Blah...Blah...Bluh. Your marriage is worth it. Blah Blee Blibbidity Blah"

Do they live normal lives with jobs, infants, toddlers, messy homes, meals, and emergency room visits?

Of course not.

We try to go on a date weekly, but it rarely happens. Something inevitably comes up, like last minute projects, vomit, or an interesting discovery channel show.

We're more like the once a month type.

What we can do, though, is treat ourselves nearly every night to a 5 minute date. Sometimes we share a dessert that is only for us. Sometimes I can even a light a candle to illuminate a living room that is lego and barbie free. Amazing, I know.

But always, we play the 3 Question Game.

One of us, usually my husband because his questions are amazing, starts the game by asking me a question. I answer. He listens and then answers for himself. And then it's my turn to ask my question. This continues until each person has asked three questions.

Some questions we've used in the past...

If you had 1 million dollars, what are the first three things you would buy?
If you could live in any place in the world, where would it be?
What was the saddest moment in your life?
When have you been the most scared?
Which came first the chicken or the egg?
Who are the top 3 actors/actresses of all time?
Name 3 songs from your childhood that call up a specific memory.

Sometimes the questions are silly and sometimes they are incredibly serious. Every time, we end up laughing and learning something new about each other. Mostly we just get to spend some time together talking...and not about how the tires are low, or the electric bill is high, or the kids are cute. We do enough of that during the day.

This is discovery time. It reminds me of when we were dating, and how I wanted to know every thought that had ever gone through his head.

Okay, so maybe I'd skip all the ones involving ex-girlfriends, football, and home improvement projects, but all the other ones are gold.

There aren't any real rules in the 3 Questions Game. You just ask, listen, comment, answer, and stare lovingly into your spouses face for at least five minutes. Whatever happens after that, is your own business.

So tonight before you open your laptop and he watches some reruns...try the 3 Questions Game. You might learn something new and have a great laugh.

*And let me know in the comments if you've got some good discovery questions I can ask. My husband's have been stellar lately, and mine have been. "If you could be any fruit, what would you be? If you could be any vegetable what would you be? If you could be any type of lettuce, what would you be?" My husband thanks you for your help.

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